Consider this your warning. I will likely be telling you this during my hospital stay when I have baby #2.
This baby has 36 hours to figure out how to latch and nurse properly. If she doesn’t get it, I’m going to pump. I’m sure you will have an opinion on this. I’m sure you will try to use it to influence me. I simply do not care what it is.
Last time around, the nurses gave my daughter a few ounces of formula while I napped. I didn’t need your snippy little comment about that later. If you had a problem with it, you should have said something to the nurse who gave it to her, not me. I was not even conscious when it happened. The baby was turning yellow and was obviously hungry. So she ate. I, her mother, was not bothered by it. So I don’t know why you should be.
All parties also became extremely frustrated in our previous experience as well, including the baby, my husband, the hospital staff and me. I reached a point where I was dreading my child waking up because I didn’t want to deal with it. Motherhood should not feel that way. Enjoying your child is imperative. When I finally decided to pump exclusively, I felt as though a gigantic weight had left my shoulders. I relaxed and had fun with my baby.
I'm not the picture of dietary health. If my child has to supplement with formula, it might actually be better than passing along all the processed foods that I consume. After having major surgery, I don't foresee having the ability or even the desire to go out and shop and cook fresh foods. I can barely do that now with a toddler. It's baby formula, with iron, vitamins and nutrients. It's not like I'm slapping a nipple on a bottle of Clorox.
I don’t want to hear that it’s “double duty” or “a lot of work.” It’s not. With my pump, I can produce twice as much milk in 20 minutes than she would likely take in a 45 minute nursing session. My husband can give her a bottle while I rest and recover. I can store the excess milk for a later time, which will keep her fed longer. I know exactly how much she has eaten, if it’s too much or too little. My first child also slept through the night by 11 weeks. Many breastfed children have trouble sleeping because the parents are unable to monitor and control how full the baby’s stomachs are. I never had that problem and was able to sleep well throughout the night as well.
And I never had to whip out my boob in public. Sure, carrying milk around can be a pain in the ass. But with two kids under the age of two, I don’t think I’m going to be going too many places anyway.
You may be an expert on nursing but I am the expert of my family. I managed to make this work last time and I’m willing to try again. Ultimately, I am the one who is going to have to live with the decision. My child and I will later be forgotten and inconsequential to you. I know it’s your job but this is my life.
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I HATE lactation consultants. I nursed Jack with no problems. When I had Henry, and he was in the NICU as a preemie, they HAD to supplement him with formula, to keep him alive. The consultant made me feel like the worst mother ever for that. Then she told me that preemies cannot latch on their own, and that I had to use some plastic nipple shield, the first time I nursed. I told her no, and she insisted. She said since he had been taking a bottle from the nurses, he would want something plastic between me and his mouth. With Henry in my arms, and boobs out, I tried to put on the "nipple shield," and I dropped it. As I bent over to pick it up, Henry stretched his neck, and latched on his own. It was hilarious. I yelled across the NICU, to where she was helping another mom, "See, I TOLD you that my son would like my nipples just fine!!" She never bothered me again.
ReplyDeleteLol! That's awesome. And those nipple shields are painful and a pain in the ass. I didn't like that at all.
ReplyDeleteA "lactation consultant?" Whiskey-Tango-Foxtrot is that?
ReplyDeleteAnd why?
Lactation consultants are special nurses and medical professionals in a maternity ward that help you breastfeed. In theory, it's a great service. However, many times their personal feelings and experiences get in the way or they go way too far in their efforts, becoming "boob juice nazis." I honestly think that the whole "you will not bond with your baby if you don't breastfeed" mentality is a bunch of bullshit. Babies are so dependant upon their mommies that it's nearly impossible for a baby not to bond. I do believe that there are other benefits to breastfeeding, though, such as immunity boosts, antibodies, plus the weight loss and low cost of feeding. That's why I just don't see why people think it's such a big deal that their child has to get their drink on from the tap rather than a bottle.
ReplyDeleteYou are so right, and lactation consultants are modern day hippies. All hype, no substance, and wanting mothers to marytr their modern day to the alter if breastfeeding 10-12 times a day and not sleeping through the night, ever. Hence will women achieve sainthood. I pumo and breastfeed. Happiest baby i know, sleeping through the night at 8 weeks ON HIS OWN, never hardly cries before his uberattentive mother feeds him. SUCK IT BOOB NAZIS.
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